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Our system has hundreds of headmates. Out of these, not a single one seems to actively identify as a strictly binary person. We do have headmates who identify as being a binary gender, but it's always part of a genderfluid, multigender, genderqueer, and/or gender ambiguous experience.

Growing up, we were raised a girl, but we never really had a strong sense of gender either way. There were things we liked about being a girl, but also things we liked about being a boy. If you had asked us what gender we were and told us we could be any gender we wanted to be, we'd probably say we were both a boy AND a girl, since that was our best concept of "gender that isn't strictly male or female".

While we'd say that the child version of ourselves - the person Blue was at the time - might be ambonec or androgyne, the collective self the system considers themself to be is not. The collective self is more so an agender masculine person, albeit with caveats like "genderfluid" and "genderflux" and "demiguy".

We now understand we were likely intersex and raised with headmates who were intentionally given odd concepts about their genders, so that might explain why binary gender never made sense to us and why transitioning to being binary-leaning feels like a transition to binary, not just a transition to male.

However, even though our gender changes and does relate to a binary gender, we never consider ourselves fully represented by the concept of the gender binary. Therefore, we are collectively genderqueer.

On an individual level, there are members of the system who appreciate the broadness of the word "genderqueer". Historically, it has included all transgender people, and some GNC cisgender people. Due to this, some gay headmates who consider themselves cisgender also consider themselves genderqueer, even if they don't actively identify as another gender than their assigned one.

This is because, from their perspective, "genderqueer" refers to anyone who feels that they are queer in a way that relates to gender, and they also feel that gay people inherently have a different relationship to gender than straight people. That's because a lot of societal concepts of gender are based on heterosexuality. While someone who isn't straight can still be a man or a woman, even a binary cisgender one, that identity will mean something different to them than what it means for a cishet man or woman to be those genders.

Therefore, we feel that cis gay people undergo an experience in which they have to discover and define their gender, and that this is much like a transgender person undergoing transition. We feel that cis gay people can therefore call themselves genderqueer and refer to themselves as having transitioned if they feel those words are applicable to them and their experience. While we can't speak to the same experience, we assume the same can be true for cis queer people in general.

Some members of the system also use "genderqueer" the way you would say "cis" or "trans", e.g. "genderqueer man" or "AMAB genderqueer person". Some of these headmates have physically transitioned in some way - either in headspace or identifying with how we've physically transitioned in the outerworld - but they don't feel that they've transitioned to the gender associated with their transition, e.g. a gender neutral lesbian on testosterone who doesn't really feel transMASC.